Hehehehehehe.....We had to start this post with that mischievous laugh. Well, today, our Chief admin put out a bc on bbm and it went thus:
"Most sisters think brothers that are deep in God might be boring as husbands...Well, there is a new crop of brothers who've got God and still got it all in the good books that will stun a wifey".
Well, that message had a horde of responses from a cross section of sisters. Here, we present them to you. Dig in and enjoy some refreshing views on the issue from our very fine sisters...
Fonny Michael ( Entrepreneur/Consultant & Gospel Artiste)
"Once the partners are married, there shouldn't be spirituality in the bedroom.You waited a long to have it the right way so enjoy "it" as much as you can..."
As long as the brother doesn't take spirituality to d bedroom after marriage, its ok . But truly, things go best when done right. Its okay to be spiritual, love God and maintain godliness in your relationships as a single individual. Once the partners are married, there shouldn't be spirituality in the bedroom. This is one of the things that seem to make some Christian marriages boring and uninteresting - taking spirituality to the bedroom. You waited a long to have it the right way so enjoy "it" as much as you can, its godly. Apart from that, there is nothing wrong with taking wifey out on dates as a Christian husband, taking her on vacations, these spices up the relationship.
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Olabisi "Yele" Adebiyi ( Education/HR Consultant/Gospel Artiste) :"A lot of ladies have this idea that a real man (fun, loving, etc) is not in church..."
Well...I would say you were trying to be humorous about it and there is humor actually. A lot of ladies have this idea that a real man (fun, loving, etc) is not in church because a lot of the christian brothers were taught how to follow God's plan for their lives and be spiritual but they left out the teaching on how to be a gentleman...how to woo a woman etc but...you have said that there is a new generation of brothers so we await their manifestation.
Well...I would say you were trying to be humorous about it and there is humor actually. A lot of ladies have this idea that a real man (fun, loving, etc) is not in church because a lot of the christian brothers were taught how to follow God's plan for their lives and be spiritual but they left out the teaching on how to be a gentleman...how to woo a woman etc but...you have said that there is a new generation of brothers so we await their manifestation.
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Mowunmee (Banker/Gospel Artiste) "...forget about the physical outlook or all those romantic effizy that any player could just as well do and even outperform ...Not all that glitters is gold ooo."
Well, my own point of view maybe quite different because from my experience, I've got a very handsome young man, who's also God fearing and even more Christianly than me when i met him and we've been married for 11 yrs now. Initially he was a bit not-too-romantic but we worked things out through openness and communication and right now, we've been able to carve each other out into ΨђåƮ we desire to have from each other...this even include our sexual relationship as well, even though we would not outrightly go over the bar on some crazy sex stuff, we learn everyday and we improve together.
So my point is, no matter who U̶̲̥̅̊ are getting married to, just forget about the physical outlook or all those romantic effizy that any player could just as well do and even outperform, rather, be prayerful about Ɣø̲̣̣UЯ choice and be sure he is God's chosen husband for you. If he's not too romantic today, U̶̲̥̅̊ guys can always work it out by openness and communication. Not all that glitters is gold ooo.
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Aijay (Medical Lab Scientist / Gospel Artiste)
"..anyone who feels that a man/woman who has a deep relationship with God will be a boring spouse is very short-sighted..."
It goes both ways o...It's simple: A man/woman who genuinely loves God will love his wife/her husband to pieces (my belief based on the Bible). Ist John 4:7-10 talks about love. The truth is that there is no love outside God, because God is love. So anyone who feels that a man/woman who has a deep relationship with God will be a boring spouse is very short-sighted. Unfortunately this is the belief of soooooo many and that's why the current divorce rate is so high. People are getting married for the wrong reasons and are also using the wrong yardsticks in their choice of a life-partner.
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Uchechi Ezenyirioha (Lawyer)
"...there are Christian brothers out there that are well rooted in the word and still have some flavour 'goingon'..."
Its good to look out for a good Christian brother of the same faith. But they've been infiltrated by guys with a form of godliness [Not true Christians]...Acting like Christianity is a trend or some kind of fashion . And these are the majority... but I believe some brothers still got it for real.Well I think there are Christian brothers out there that are well rooted in the word and still have some flavour 'goingon' ...some are just boring though.
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Joan Paul (Media Personality/ Gospel Artiste)
"When you get married to an "unbeliever", obviously the devil is your father in law...sisters wey dey wait make broda in christ talk 1st, yawa dey oo"
The truth of the matter is that the groving babe one day will get married and weather or not you know God, once you are married, some how you just know that you need God to run you,your hubby and family. Now, my dear sisters, the safest path you can ever take is that you get married to a bornagain bro. Your family and future are so so secure with him. When you get married to an "unbel", obviously the devil is your father in law. Christian bro have got swag ooo! No dulling
The ones who re in tune wiv the Holy Spirit know how to treat their women right. They fit in all places - as a father, hubby ,friend and brother and trust me, they arr romantic. So sis, the greatest mistake of your life will be to even spy over the fence. Your kind is in the kingdom. Stay connected! Stay in the house.
The ones who re in tune wiv the Holy Spirit know how to treat their women right. They fit in all places - as a father, hubby ,friend and brother and trust me, they arr romantic. So sis, the greatest mistake of your life will be to even spy over the fence. Your kind is in the kingdom. Stay connected! Stay in the house.
You might be *eyein* a guy who isn't financial up there and you are the kinda girl who want a classy guy wiv gud things in his pocket; if this guy in question is Godly and fits into your vision please if he comes for you, do accept. WHY? You can build together with him and on him. The more you work on him (good clothes ,perfume, encourage him to get an education or a skill, feed on the word) the more your dream man appears. They don't always come ready made *you know* [smiles].
Hey and all dos sisters wey dey wait make broda in christ talk 1st, yawa dey oo. When my hubby and I met we just came out of heart shattering relationships. We both had a crush on each other but because of our past we were scared but we both knew we wantd each other. I askd God for someone that will intrprete my dreams and take my music ministry to the next level. All that, I found in him. At a time,he was slippin away and I had to had to step up and talk about us with him. We had the opportunity to have a heart talk to heart talk He still wouldn't say anything so I actually threatened him.
I told him if he didn't tell me what he had on his mind I didn't even want to be his friend. That's how it all started. He told me he was scared because I kept saying I want to get married to an 'oyibo' man. This was 1998 october 22. He proposed in 2003. We got married 2006 Nov 12. Today, I am by far better with him on board. I thank God I spoke up and we had that talk. So ladies, if it requires standing upfront to know your direction with your brother, please do so and in a respectable way. Thanks for the opportunity to share...
I told him if he didn't tell me what he had on his mind I didn't even want to be his friend. That's how it all started. He told me he was scared because I kept saying I want to get married to an 'oyibo' man. This was 1998 october 22. He proposed in 2003. We got married 2006 Nov 12. Today, I am by far better with him on board. I thank God I spoke up and we had that talk. So ladies, if it requires standing upfront to know your direction with your brother, please do so and in a respectable way. Thanks for the opportunity to share...
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Uche u r so right!!!
ReplyDeleteall of this is so so right and important. i believe many ladies will read this. sister you guys are very right. i enjoyed this. keep it on.
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